how many times have you had a friend and thought; "oh my friend is TRUELY awesome, if only they could be more accurate, or more direct, or more on time, or keep their word more often"
how many times has your friend done something that was irritating to yourself, and you told them to change that thing, or to not do it?? how many times has that thought came across your mind??
well let me introduce you to something, it's called accepting the person in front of you as they are, and NOT try to change them, no matter how bad you think they are, no matter how much you think you can improve their behaviour or attitude.. simply because a friend comes to you as a package, he has his goods and his bad, his ups and downs, his rights and wrongs, and above all he has his own opinion on being who he is, so no matter how many persons may say that this person ought to change, be a true friend and unconditionally accept the person in front of you, or else leave the package, and someone else will come along who'd want him and accept him as he is, but consider this: when you never think of changing the person in front of you, that person in time will change himself, and it wont be for you, or for anyone, it will be a permanent change for the better of himself, a change rising from his own need to change, a lasting change =)
how many times has your friend done something that was irritating to yourself, and you told them to change that thing, or to not do it?? how many times has that thought came across your mind??
well let me introduce you to something, it's called accepting the person in front of you as they are, and NOT try to change them, no matter how bad you think they are, no matter how much you think you can improve their behaviour or attitude.. simply because a friend comes to you as a package, he has his goods and his bad, his ups and downs, his rights and wrongs, and above all he has his own opinion on being who he is, so no matter how many persons may say that this person ought to change, be a true friend and unconditionally accept the person in front of you, or else leave the package, and someone else will come along who'd want him and accept him as he is, but consider this: when you never think of changing the person in front of you, that person in time will change himself, and it wont be for you, or for anyone, it will be a permanent change for the better of himself, a change rising from his own need to change, a lasting change =)
All I actually have to do is to inspire him to change to be that better version of himself. And It's true that you can never change anyone, people change by themselves; you just inspire and show the way! :):) ... Thanks for that topic, and I agree. :)
ReplyDeleteya inspire sure, bas dont wait for him to be inspired :)
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