Paradigm-ing

“I heard something that changed my perception, “

“I had to change my paradigm,”

“I had to understand.”

All those are life-evolving steps; they are steps that help us understand the other side of the equation, the other party who's not there to explain their side.

But how about to start from the top, how about not needing to change your paradigm, how about not having a pre-perception of what may be. How about instead of thinking you know someone, you just let them do and be whoever they want and can be, and be totally okay and not interfering with it

The constant variable

Yes time is a constant variable, it is constant because we all are given the same amount, we all have 60 seconds in the minute, and 60 minutes in the hour, and 24 hours per day, and so on.

But the variability comes from how we spend that time, some may say that time flies away, others say that the minutes drag, others have no relevance to time, so what one person can do in an hour, another may do in a minute and other in a day. Depending on the professionality and the knowledge and the conception of how much I’m spending of my time there.

HA: When You Fight

"eh mowasafat il 7aga elli il testa7e2 il wa7ed ye7arb 3ashanha? ma3 example"

When you're reading this post, please bear in mind the different types of mentalities that exist and the different spirits that everyone possesses…….

when do we fight?

fighting is time, energy and thinking (power) consuming, that's why we don't fight and can't fight all the time, we need to rest to continue or start a fight. others can be fuelled while fighting leading to a non-stop fighting action.

Do we fight them all? Which fights do we fight?

some might think that you need to go through all fights heads on, and give it your best shot, but that is not necessarily correct, most people would say that you need to pick your fights, so that you don't waste time on a lost cause, or maybe the gaining are not worthy of the whole fight, others would say that not fighting at all could prove your position and fortify it and might even prove you right.

you can spend all your time in fights, with no breaks in between, or you can choose your fights so that  you can rest a while and be able to pick up where you left, or continue.

What are fighting techniques:

you can use a defense mechanism, or an offence mechanism to be guarded, you can start the attack. when fighting a mental battle that tactics are very similar if not exact to those for the physical ones. we could attack fiercely or we can put up gears and fences and whatever walls we can build to protect us.

how do we fight?

when fighting, there could be many tools used, ones that are aligned to your ethics, and values, you use those that you find fit to the situation, but sometimes you fight using the other side's methods that are not expected to be used by you, but you do it anyway, cause it's the only way to get to the other side and make your point clear, or win the fight that is ongoing.

when do we fight?

you can prepare yourself for the fight and then wait for the right moment to start, or you can be in the middle of your research phase and preparation, and you find yourself in the middle of the fight, with one of two options, either to fight, or forfeit and lose.

what are the obstacles?

the obstacles that might face you are like those in any situation; they could be physical, emotional, and mental. and in order to be able to go through your fight, you need to be able to have your emotion and mind and body aligned to your vision and ready to be on the spot at anytime of your life. cause the fight might start even if you're not ready for it.

another obstacles might be fear; fear of being rejected for what you're fighting for, or fear of losing the fight itself.

Now it's time for the main question, well actually they were two, but I couldn't separate them, because in order to define one, you have to know the answer to the other, so without further ado,

what is fighting, and what do we fight for??

fighting is not just the physical act of violence of defense or offence, but it can also be the act of standing up to something that you believe in, whether it is a thought or a belief or an ideal, it could be being there for someone and never letting go of them.

I know that till now I didn't answer the question, because in the end it is all up to you on what you stand up for and how you do it.

when you're choosing what to fight for, make it something worth your time, energy, and yourself, cause one day you'll say I fought for that

Getting things done

So I noticed a pattern, when I start a note, or a comment, or a point of view that doesn't necessary has to be right, just a plain comment. And then that would lead to the proceeding clarification of explaining what I mean, and then taking my audience from their own perspective and their places and make them share the experience and see my point of view, through my perspective and therefore gain their empathy and compassion to whatever it is that I have to say.

Same applies to life, if you want people to be on your side of the conversation, you'd need to walk them through the opinion that you are suggesting, and then they'd get on your side and get convinced with your point of view and maybe defend it themselves. Cause unless they are emotionally or physically involved, they would show indifference to whatever happens to you, or whatever you have to say.

Comes to my mind a saying a friend of mine used to say a lot; "they wont care how much you know, till they know how much you care”. Simply it applies because they get INVOLVED, so it becomes their story as well.

When your heroes become your friends

Usually when we start working, we like to set a goal, the target, then the plan we're gonna follow, also sometimes we set a vision and a role model, something to help us keep our energy flowing and our battery never dying, so that when things get hard, or it seems a dead end, you can find something or someone to look up to and renew your power to continue. But when does it end, at a certain point you'll need to do something no one else has tried to do, you'll need to do something not even your idol has done it, you'll need to get out in the open and go where no one has been before and start leaving your own marks. Only then would your role models look up to you and be your friends.

AS: What is a turning point.

We can agree or even consider the possibility of what a turning point is.

It could be the point at which your paradigm shifted, when your perception altered, when you start actually learning the lessons life taught you, and my personal favourite; it's when you turn into someone who's different than that you were minutes ago with no need or want to look back and being who you once were.

The turning point involves 2 aspects of yourself, the first one is how you perceive and the other is how you react toward what you've perceived. And that is a permanent alteration that you'll live with, it becomes your routine and your habits, it becomes who you are.

2 Magnets

 We all know metal, they are those materials that have their metallic properties and tend to act as metals most of the times.

And we also know magnets, those materials that have magnetic properties that tends to attract metal objects toward them, that is imbedded in their pure nature, they're built in attracting metals, so when placing a magnet next to a metal you not need only to think of placing them next to each others, but to also the effect it will have on both of them, placing them that close that the metal would enter the magnetic field of the magnet and therefore would move from its place nearer to the magnet, and eventually the metal would gain magnetic properties.

Another example is that when placing 2 magnets you are facing 2 options;

The first is that they'd attract and move closer to each other, or the second that they'd move further and repel each other’s.

So you cant blame a magnet for it's properties, you placed the magnet so deal with the consequences of them slamming into each others, or running away from each others and you don't get to say that it is not your fault that they have magnetic properties, you knew before placing them in front of each others the expected reaction of that particular action, so MAN up and take responsibility of your action.